When someone is controlling you and you start setting boundaries on them, they become angry. The important thing to realize is that this anger is not your problem, it is the controller's anger and it is his problem. He has to learn to deal with it. Others might react with guilt messages, which is really just them being angry, but not wanting to show it, probably because it would expose how controlling they are. Another way they might react is with blame. They might say that you setting boundaries is ruining their life or their career. The best way to react is not to let their anger or blame get to you. React with love.
"I'm sorry about that but your career/feelings is your problem." Over time, the controller will realize that they can't control you and will mature.
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